Heart break – how to deal

Remember the last time you had your heart broken?  

Not by someone you were (or wanted to be) with.  

Do you remember the last time you had your heart broken by the entertainment industry?  

Of course you do.  

The hardest part about being in actor is not “all the rejection” as they say. It’s the heartbreak.  

In your personal life, heartbreak sucks.  

But as an actor, you have chosen a life that includes professional heartbreak for as long as you’re playing the game.  

Just last week a dear friend of mine had a fresh heartbreak. A project came along that she was not only perfect for, but the subject matter is something she has invested years of her life studying and learning about out on her personal time.  

After a lengthy audition preparation that included going all out in the room, she didn’t get the role. Or even a callback.  

Normally this would be par for the course.  

The more attached you are to a role or a project, the harder it is.  

It’s easy to say. Easy to understand.  

But then that role comes along. That perfect part that feels like it was made especially for you.  

And then you don’t get it.  

What then?  

How do you deal with a broken heart?  

The first step.

Let yourself be exactly where you are.  

If you try to jump to the logical brain, or tell yourself, “I know I shouldn’t be attached,” at the expense of feeling what you’re actually feeling, it won’t work.  

When you deny or avoid your emotions, they will find a way to be heard. Usually by coming out in unhealthy ways.  

Carve out some time and space to let yourself sit with the heartbreak. Go for a walk without your phone or music. Do some journaling.t.